12: Dare the rain to fall
You could cut the tension with a knife, at least on our side. We were making the most important presentation of our professional lives to the biggest of the big brands in that industry and we had exceeded the time given to us and hadn’t finished our presentation.
We had spent sleepless nights and a significant amount of money running into millions of naira to prepare for this presentation and here we were being told we had only one minute left! If we could fall on our knees and beg for extra time, we would have but our lead presenter did something else: he just kept on pressing on!
Rather than waste time agonizing, he felt the thing to do was to just keep talking, hoping that the passion with which he was carrying on would cover for our lapses in managing our time.
And it worked! Nothing brings out the fight in man than a challenge confronted headlong. The judges held their peace as the last presenter handed over to the next person and that one handed over to the next person. In a blaze of glory, we finally finished pitching our ideas on how to take their business to the next level.
As we left the hall just a few days back, it dawned on me how I sometimes waste time seeking permission from the world to do what I’m sure needs to be done. This “Permission Paralysis” can totally paralyze initiative if you let it get a grip on you.
Permission paralysis arises from a desire to cover all bases so that failure, if it occurs, can be blamed on others. You see people who should know what is good from what is bad still asking for permission to do the needful. In a management position, such persons are the frustration of their bolder subordinates.
It comes from that desire to wait for perfect conditions before you act. I have learnt from personal experience that perfect conditions hardly ever present themselves. I sometimes reaffirm this truth to myself whenever I decide to wash my clothes.
If it is cloudy outside and threatening to rain, I still go out and start washing. I assume a stance of almost daring the rain to fall and I can in all honesty report that the rain has backed down 90% of the time. How this happens remains a mystery to me but I conclude that we have more control over the elements than we know.
Permission paralysis arises because somewhere along the line we have been penalized for taking initiative in the past. Eagerness was cut short by some careless superior who had the power to determine the destiny of our ideas and actions. Some people fail to recover from this experience and keep looking for the validation of their intentions before turning them to action.
This is an invitation to mediocrity for the rest of your life! You will never have the whole stadium on your side on the field of play. You must arm yourself with the guts that will propel you over the fence of complacency. If Einstein waited for the permission of his teachers before trusting in his inherent genius we would never have heard of him because they told him he would never amount to much.
Whose permission are you seeking to do what you know to be the needful at that point in time? Please wrest your God given powers of initiative from them and get to work. Please dare the rain to fall! Peace.
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Hi peeps, I thank God that we have all lived to see this day. By His grace, this is the 12th volume of this diary, meaning I’ve actually written something for a full year! To reward my good friends who have kept the faith and encouraged me to keep writing I will be giving a couple of prizes out.
The first goes to Charles Oyibo, who has been the most frequent commentator on these articles (I counted all the mails) and has also been kind enough to build a web page and on going blog for this diary. He will be getting a powerful book as his prize when next he steps in to Nigeria.
I would also like to give three more books out and other gifts but I had a challenge on deciding who to give them to. I have then decided to have a little competition in which everyone who can should please write an essay of not less than 3 paragraphs about a bully you have ever confronted and how it played out (It can be either fact or fiction). The articles will be judged on originality, clarity and simplicity.
First, second and third prizes are up for grabs and anyone who participates gets a prize. Last month I asked for mails from friends of friends but none came! I had a secret prize for anyone who would write but no one can claim it now. So please participate in this one, don’t let me hold my prizes! Entries close on the 5th of June and the next volume is coming in June. Have a great month ahead.
We had spent sleepless nights and a significant amount of money running into millions of naira to prepare for this presentation and here we were being told we had only one minute left! If we could fall on our knees and beg for extra time, we would have but our lead presenter did something else: he just kept on pressing on!
Rather than waste time agonizing, he felt the thing to do was to just keep talking, hoping that the passion with which he was carrying on would cover for our lapses in managing our time.
And it worked! Nothing brings out the fight in man than a challenge confronted headlong. The judges held their peace as the last presenter handed over to the next person and that one handed over to the next person. In a blaze of glory, we finally finished pitching our ideas on how to take their business to the next level.
As we left the hall just a few days back, it dawned on me how I sometimes waste time seeking permission from the world to do what I’m sure needs to be done. This “Permission Paralysis” can totally paralyze initiative if you let it get a grip on you.
Permission paralysis arises from a desire to cover all bases so that failure, if it occurs, can be blamed on others. You see people who should know what is good from what is bad still asking for permission to do the needful. In a management position, such persons are the frustration of their bolder subordinates.
It comes from that desire to wait for perfect conditions before you act. I have learnt from personal experience that perfect conditions hardly ever present themselves. I sometimes reaffirm this truth to myself whenever I decide to wash my clothes.
If it is cloudy outside and threatening to rain, I still go out and start washing. I assume a stance of almost daring the rain to fall and I can in all honesty report that the rain has backed down 90% of the time. How this happens remains a mystery to me but I conclude that we have more control over the elements than we know.
Permission paralysis arises because somewhere along the line we have been penalized for taking initiative in the past. Eagerness was cut short by some careless superior who had the power to determine the destiny of our ideas and actions. Some people fail to recover from this experience and keep looking for the validation of their intentions before turning them to action.
This is an invitation to mediocrity for the rest of your life! You will never have the whole stadium on your side on the field of play. You must arm yourself with the guts that will propel you over the fence of complacency. If Einstein waited for the permission of his teachers before trusting in his inherent genius we would never have heard of him because they told him he would never amount to much.
Whose permission are you seeking to do what you know to be the needful at that point in time? Please wrest your God given powers of initiative from them and get to work. Please dare the rain to fall! Peace.
***
Hi peeps, I thank God that we have all lived to see this day. By His grace, this is the 12th volume of this diary, meaning I’ve actually written something for a full year! To reward my good friends who have kept the faith and encouraged me to keep writing I will be giving a couple of prizes out.
The first goes to Charles Oyibo, who has been the most frequent commentator on these articles (I counted all the mails) and has also been kind enough to build a web page and on going blog for this diary. He will be getting a powerful book as his prize when next he steps in to Nigeria.
I would also like to give three more books out and other gifts but I had a challenge on deciding who to give them to. I have then decided to have a little competition in which everyone who can should please write an essay of not less than 3 paragraphs about a bully you have ever confronted and how it played out (It can be either fact or fiction). The articles will be judged on originality, clarity and simplicity.
First, second and third prizes are up for grabs and anyone who participates gets a prize. Last month I asked for mails from friends of friends but none came! I had a secret prize for anyone who would write but no one can claim it now. So please participate in this one, don’t let me hold my prizes! Entries close on the 5th of June and the next volume is coming in June. Have a great month ahead.
7 Comments:
At the other extreme of "Permission Paralysis" is what I will call "Analysis Paralysis." A personal anecdote will be in order, here.
I have been on the market for a digital camera for over a year now, but, believe it or not, haven't yet bought one. I have spend many hours poring over comparison engines on the Web, strolling between the electronics department aisle at Best Buy and Circuit City, and generally comparing Canons to Nikons, or debating the relative desirability of number of pixels versus strength of optical zoom...
Bah! I should go pick one camera, already! How many memories have I lost by now?
I read this article again this morning and i can say i just understood it.
In short, it says "don't be afraid to do what u know's right!!!"
I just needed to hear that today.
Wow! Powerful,inspiring and true. I had been a victim of both "permission paralysis" and "analysis paralysis" for a long time... but then I realized that time waits for no man. Like they say, "Don't be afraid to leap. Just make sure u look before u do so, and if u fall.. Get up and try again!"
Thanks ID... u're doin a great job
Postscript: I would have been happy to report that I eventually purchased a Kodak V550 via the Web for delivery to my out-of-town address... except that the good folks at the Marriott at Rocky Hill, CT. appear to have lost the package!
Addendum to Postscript: No fear, one of American Express, Walmart, Marriott, UPS/DHL/USPS will be refunding my dough if the people at Rocky Hill don't find the package. (How incompetent do they have to be anyway?). My only regret is that it would have been nice to have had the camera on my outing this past weekend.
i read the articles and felt like whao!such a great job well done,it's so mind opening and inspiring,keep it up.
Idiare is at the forefront of a revolution,a war, not fought with sticks and stones but with the power of words(persuasion).The battles of the future will not be contested with sophisticated weapons, they will first be fought and won in the mind. Thanks Idiare your writing is liberating!
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